1,000 Love, You Letters
started as an open invitation- initiated by Atlanta based publisher Urban Ivy- to women and girls around the world to write letters to themselves to share openly. We created this space to give life to their words.

#80: It Is Okay (Karen I.)

#80: It Is Okay (Karen I.)


Dear Me,

It is so lovely to write to you, reflect on your journey so far and ponder on the road ahead of you. Every stage of life has something different and challenging. Though everyone around you has this notion of who and what you should be and of what you should be able to do, rarely can anyone else truly remark about your potential and unique path.

Even though you have heard from others why they are proud of you… Today, I want to write to you and tell you why I am proud of you.
I am so proud of you for working on yourself. Even when you feel like you are not making much progress, when you feel directionless, unmotivated and feel like you are going around in circles – it is fine!
I can’t tell you how to get rid of them, but I can tell you that there is beauty in days like this too. And there should be no need to avoid them.
Try to acknowledge these feelings and thoughts as and when they come. 
In fact, they might just help you recognise your thought patterns and habits!

Your goals and tasks are part of your life process. Stop, reflect, re-iterate and celebrate the small accomplishments. Because no matter what goals you achieve, there will always be something bigger to do. And it doesn’t make sense to not enjoy the progress and take time to reflect and celebrate small wins.

Please remember to not be in a rush. Being busy is not equal to being productive. If you are in a rush, you will be unable to stop and look to help others.

Don’t be on a never-ending TO-DO list. Sometimes, you can’t do everything on your list. And that is okay. Trust me, IT IS OKAY. Don’t throw all your enthusiasm away now!!! Instead, pick a realistic task to be placed in your realistic time schedule. Focus on it. You are human after all. It might not feel like it is up to the mark but trust me it is vital for your mental energy to say NO to your own unrealistic standards. This way, it will help you focus and maximize your energy on the necessary things. 
They were right when they said, “Saying NO means that you are saying YES to things that are more important”.

Don’t live for the blind praise or blind approval of others. Know your own strengths and weakness. The more you understand your weakness, the more scope there is for true growth. Don’t let blind criticism put you off.

Don’t let embarrassment or ego keep you from trying. 
Don’t let fear of failure keep you from trying.
Courage is in being vulnerable. And that is what is extraordinary!

Refuse the craving to numb out or lash out, based on fear. Observe and respond. Don’t react.

Though nostalgia and fear of the unknown future leave you in bewilderment at times, I hope you learn and grow through this as well. Now, more so than ever before, the fear of how things will turn out to be, scare you. I hope you will continue to stay true to yourself.
Be authentic.
Be compassionate.
For the unknown uncharted road ahead.

I know how grateful you are for the people in your life. For your family. For disagreements, agreements, arguments, mutual understanding and unconditional love from your family. I know how the last year has made you treasure the importance of connecting with people over shared stories and deep conversations. I know you are grateful for friends, for the simple pleasure of talking about the things that have happened in your lives. 

It is indeed the little things in life that make it great.
Make sure you are grateful for these little things in your mundane daily life, otherwise they will be lost in the routine.

Take care of your health, both your body and your mind. 

#81: Love Always (Candace D.)

#81: Love Always (Candace D.)

#79: No Comparisons (Ashlee A.)

#79: No Comparisons (Ashlee A.)